oh for the love of Pete

[Duckspeakungood]

My 13-year-old has been friends with a kid for an entire year and I just found out that this kid is a girl. All this time I thought she was a very effeminate boy, seeing as she has a boy's name and uses "he" pronouns. My teenager warned me not to treat "him" any differently now that I know. For crying out loud, people.

[Irina]

Poor child! No one is supposed to be having honest conversations with children on gender ideology.
I think there's not much you can do for your daughter's friend, but a conversation with your daughter about gender and the origin of the gender system might help.

[unaksi]

I'd say it's "normal" for a 12 year old girl to explore and play with gender, it's only scary in the current context of affirmation only. I hope she can skip medicalization at least for a few years until the trend is finally over (hopefully).

I was such a tomboy, always got mistaken for a boy and even wanted to be one at that age. My parents never said a bad word about it (the rest of society did though), they never told me off or even suggested I should be any other way, they just let me be. It was the 80s. Last summer I was at their home visiting and my mother was really upset that they are now telling children they are actually the opposite sex just because they like certain things. It's unbelievable how regressive that is.

[Peach]

Reading this I think there can be sleep overs with mixed sexes and the parents are not even aware.
Gender confuses children and it shouldn't be an option until they're 26 when the brain is fully developed.
I hope this trans trend ends soon, because it's actually killing people. A lifetime on cross-sex hormones shortens the life span.

[Duckspeakungood]

"Reading this I think there can be sleep overs with mixed sexes and the parents are not even aware."

Actually--we'd been arguing for a year because I hadn't been letting this kid sleep over as I thought she was a boy, but now that I've found out that she's a girl, she is now allowed to sleep over. So much for not treating "him" any differently!

[Lesbian]

"Reading this I think there can be sleep overs with mixed sexes and the parents are not even aware."

Actually--we'd been arguing for a year because I hadn't been letting this kid sleep over as I thought she was a boy, but now that I've found out that she's a girl, she is now allowed to sleep over. So much for not treating "him" any differently!

Good for you - well done! Those risks are risks are real, and it’s great that you demonstrate this through your sleepiver rules.